Sexual Acts
Turns Off
Okay, so I am generally quite widely accepting of most fetishes. It often is quicker to list what I am not turned on by.
I find most humiliation, degradation, objectification and dehumanisation to be hot. This tends to be in a scene kind of way rather than in public, but I can happily make you do stuff in public if that turns you on. I keep most play behind closed doors. It keeps the air of mystery.
Unfortunately, the smell of faeces makes me wretch so pooh is out. Sorry to my scat friends, you keep rocking on, just not around me. The smell reminds me of vomit and both trigger a natural urge for me to throw up so no matter how much you might want that I just can’t.
When my grandpa was approaching death, I looked after him and frequently had to put him in nappies (diapers) to avoid toilet issues. When I see someone in nappies it doesn’t do much for me I am afraid. It’s not a turn off per sé, but from time to time it does remind me of my grampa. Boys dressed up in babies nighties are cute, but not generally hot to me. Again keep rocking on.
Feminisation is an interesting one. I find men hot and I like to degrade men, but for me, making a man wear women’s clothes is NOT degrading. Women that know who they are, are powerful! It’s not something I find hot. Sadly, I am generally not attracted to women and the degradation of women is a real turn off to me. I prefer males (whether cis or trans) and mostly-male-presenting non-binary people. Effeminate men are hot too.
A lot of guys like permanent marks including tattoos and scarring. However my Buddhist teaching has always taught me that people are transient, relationships have their season and the only permanence is change. So for me, I don’t want to leave marks on someone that could negatively impact their future. When the sad day comes that a sub decides they should leave my service then they should leave it better than they found it, with only positive change to take into the future. I refuse to deliberately scar or mark my subs in anything more than a transient manner no matter how much pleasure is to be gained.
Turn On
Most of the time I just enjoy someone to try new things with. Especially if they are bottom and/or want to satisfy my cock. I love my sub in rubber and I quite like me in leather, but I’m easy about that.
Scenes involving bondage are hot the more bondage the better. Total immobilisation in a vac rack or cube is ideal.
My ideal submissive is a rubber gimp with no identity, no control over his own sexual organs or body. It is kept in a state of desperate horniness and eagerness to serve. Also for long periods kept sealed in a full-body rubber suit and an anonymising hood. It is locked in with a collar. It lives in chastity most of the time. When not with me, it regularly trains his throat and/or butt to take cock so it can better serve sexually, but leaves any stretching to me.
It can get used to periods of prolonged bondage while its sexual organs are left helpless to my mercy. I will tease and play with them according to my will. Don’t expect to cum. I don’t guarantee it, but teasing is a must.
It is subject to hypnosis to help it be a better submissive/slave putting its mind in more bondage.
Personality
Turn Offs
Submissives should be submissive. They should be ready to please. They should want to be used and want to serve. I don’t like submissives that are too focused on the fantasy they have in their own head. They don’t meet me in the bedroom because their brain is off in fantasy land and trying to match reality to what’s in their head. Then they start trying to take control of things to make them match what they want. Soon I feel like someone is trying to control me into dominating them specifically how they want. Back-seat dominators! Suddenly, I don’t feel like the dom anymore and frankly, I’m not there to be a puppet to be used to fulfil someone else’s fantasy without fulfilling my own. Often this happens with a list of “limits”. I am all for limits. I don’t do X and I don’t do Y. That’s fine. Consent is a beautiful thing, but if your list of limits is easier explained by what can be done than can’t then it might seem like you’re trying to control the dom.
I hate it when subs play keeping up with the Jones. I hate hearing people who think like this: “Oh my mate has a Jaguar F-Type, so I need an F-Type or better and my other friend is going to the Canaries so I should do that too for the Instagram pictures”. They often suggest if they can’t do both they’re a pauper or invalid in some way. There’s nothing wrong with wanting things and buying things that you can afford, but if you’re always playing catch up with the people around you, you stop buying the stuff YOU really want. Because the people around you aren’t you and you have limited money so if you spend it all on what Dave and Sheila want then you don’t buy the stuff that the REAL YOU wants to buy and you just become a reflection of Dave and Sheila. Soon you lose your sense of self.
For example, I use Android. I can programme Android and I do things with my phone most apple users can’t dream of. But when a sub once told me my phone messages were coming up as the “green bubbles of poverty” I was horrified by his attitude and I don’t think I have met him since.
A) Why the hell would I give my money to one of the biggest tax dodgers in the world? and
B) Why was I being marked down as “poor” for that?
c) I don’t want to brag, but my most recent phone was more expensive than the latest Apple anyway.
Ironically, I actually spent more for the latest Android at the time because I wanted the extra data. But I felt this person prejudged me for something he knew nothing about.
I know what I really want and I spend my money on what I really want, I avoid spending money on stuff I don’t want. This is why I have a good collection of rubber suits, some leather, plenty of board games, plenty of books that I love and clothes that make me feel good. Also, It’s because I don’t feel the need to keep up with work colleagues cars, brands/magazines clothes and friends’ holidays. People’s Instagram vinyl collections etc. They can do them and I will do me. People trying to keep up with everyone else will spend all their money and never be happy.
Good for nothing subs. I don’t deal with extremely lazy subs. As we are born we go through an ordeal, squeezing water out of our lungs and coughing and then we scream to make people aware we are there and need feeding. Soon we struggle to crawl and then we struggle to walk, we then struggle through learning words and soon we struggle through school. Then we struggle through work to make a retirement for ourselves. Life isn’t meant to be a piece of cake handed to you, you have to earn it and effort doesn’t plateau. It is meant to be a bit of a struggle. That’s life.
Some people end up caudled by a system that doesn’t want to see them grow. They get complacent stuck in their life. For some reason, they stop working and get on benefits, they stop doing things they enjoy, then they stop tidying and eventually they stop cleaning. I want to see my subs growing at a gentle pace not going backwards. Some people can’t work. I accept that, but if your dom made you make your bed in the morning would you not be able to handle it? If you learned to clean up the house and take up a hobby that produced something like drawing or writing is that gonna be too much? I don’t want my subs struggling too much, but growing healthily is important. Sometimes I want to see them struggling against their cock cages, their shackles, but at least trying their best to grow. I will not touch a submissive that is too lazy to wash.
I don’t put up with submissives who see movements like Black Lives Matter and feel the need to push back with statements like “All Lives Matter”. I won’t listen to people blaming economic issues on international trade or immigrants. Those are scape goats regularly used by right wing media as a cover when statistically theses things have only helped economies. I won’t listen to bs regarding trickle down economics unless it is based on independent statistics, everything I have seen points to more money at the top only leading to greater wage disparity not trickle down economics. I also won’t listen to people who unquestioningly identify as Tories. If a slave expresses such views they will be made to study articles to challenge their beliefs. If after studying them, should they still have a valid reason to vote Tory, they are permitted to do so.
Turn on
I like a sub that is a bit geeky. Like me. They should be accepting of people who don’t conform to the culture of “normal” society. They should know what they like and be at peace with that. They should be accepting of people that don’t conform too.
They should be enthusiastic and practical rather than a constant excuse giver or nay-sayer. I used to have a sub who gave me excuses every single day for why he didn’t do what he was told. I would rather a sub give me solutions a lot. So it would be better if he could offer the excuse and leave it to me to determine if it is acceptable. Then he could offer a solution for how that excuse would be less of an issue in the future. I would be pleased with that.
Body
I am generally very accepting of bodies, after all its all gonna be sealed up in rubber isn’t it?
I prefer curves where possible. Slight bulges of fat or muscle rather than bones. But it’s more down to personality more than physicality. No matter how good looking a person is, I cannot overlook a personality that judges others for not complying with their own idea of “normality” or that focuses exclusively on transitory and superficial things.
I am told I have a bit of a type for “mousey faces”. I like chubby guys, hairy guys, hairless guys, muscular guys and the odd skinny guy. They have their uses too.
